Thursday, March 7, 2019

Mentor Moms Panel Part 2

This week we were blessed to hear from our mentor moms for the second time this MOPS year. The mentor moms that participated this time are: Donna Roman, Linda Lindsey, MaryBurr Edwards, Dana Devane-Webster, Cynthia Sovich, and Cindy Orange.




Below is a summary of the questions that were asked of them, and some of their answers:

- Tips for balancing time with multiple children

  • Plan activities with all and make it special, but also do individual activities. Dana shared how sometimes they will do "communal nap time" after church.
  • Be intentional about picking meaningful activities to do individually - those will depend on the child's interests. 

- How do you get your husband to help more?

  • Tell your husband to ask. They can't read your mind even if they want to! And can't always see what we think is obvious regarding what needs to be done, what help you need, etc.
  • Husband needs to switch gears to understand that their work is not over when they come home from their job.
  • Get past the mindset that if they don't automatically figure it out, that they don't love you.
  • Give them an opportunity to appreciate what you do by leaving them alone with the kids!
  • Don't criticize the way he does things! 


- Advice regarding the college application process

  • Talk with your kids about their interests starting early in their life, so they're not going into college with no idea what they want to do.
  • Visit colleges at the end of their Junior year of high school so they have an idea of where they would like to apply.
  • Diversify their activities when they're young so that they have an opportunity to try lots of different kinds of things and see what they might be interested in.
  • Look at organizations in the area that might give out scholarships.
  • Take advantage of early application periods.


- Working while kids are little

  • Yes, you can do it. Yes, it is hard.
  • Set parameters for yourself, especially if you work from home, so you don't feel like you're working ALL the time.


- What are resources for age appropriate boundaries regarding bodies and sex education?

  • Name body parts with scientific names - no cutesy names.
  • Talk about where no one is allowed to touch (under swimsuit, etc)
  • If anything happens, TELL mom and dad
  • Make sure you know what they're asking, and answer their questions directly rather than going too much off topic (for example - kids asking "where did I come from?" and they want to know the city where they were born, not how were they conceived!)


- How do you get your kids (boys, especially!) to talk to you?

  • Talk to them in the car
  • Just go there! Ask the hard questions!


Remember - God wants your kids raised well and he's more concerned with that than with whether they're happy or not. Let them fail!

Below is a handout we received at the meeting:



Announcements: 

- Our next meeting is March 12. We will hear from Kimberly Perry of We Stand Guard about personal safety for kids.

Jamie-Lee, Lacinda, and Rosemary's groups will be bringing brunch. Sign up here at Signup Genius. You can also check out the upcoming brunch schedule and info by clicking on the "Brunch" tab here on the blog.

Saturday, February 23, 2019

Craft meeting!

Our February 12 meeting was a craft meeting. We used various items to stamp with acrylic paint onto tea towels. It was amazing to see all the creativity in our group! We used citrus fruits (cut in half), celery, sponges, and other items to stamp designs onto towels. What a great craft idea to try with our kids, too! 






Announcements: 

- Our next meeting is Tuesday, February 26. We will hear from our Mentor Moms Panel. Don't miss it! 

 - Amanda/Mindy, Ann, and Kristen's groups will be bringing brunch. Sign up here at Signup Genius. You can also check out the upcoming brunch schedule and info by clicking on the "Brunch" tab here on the blog.

Monday, February 4, 2019

Cynthia Sovich on Kids and Loss & Death

This week Cynthia Sovich (who is one of our own mentor moms!) spoke to us on helping our kids deal with loss and death. She had so much good information on what we can do, and it is all contained in this PDF document. Click here to download it. (A correction to the handout: The link to Mr. Rogers' video on losing a pet is here.)

Cynthia also has information this book as a resource (not in the handout):
I Love You Rituals (Activities to build Bonds and Strengthen Relationships with Children)
By Dr. Becky Bailey
She takes traditional nursery rhymes, makes them more “friendly” and puts movements with them.
In addition to building bonds, these activities help stimulate healthy brain chemicals.
Little Miss Muffet sat on her tuffet, eating her curds and whey.
Along came a spider and sat down beside her and said, “Hey,Have a good day!”

Cynthia opened by teaching us motions to a song called "I wish you well". We can do these motions together with our children, and the singing and motions can help our brains engage, and help us connect with each other.  Here is a link to the song (also in the handout linked above).

Here are some pictures of us practicing the song together:





Announcements: 

- If you still owe dues for spring semester, you should have received an e-mail from crossroadsraleighmops@gmail.com Make sure to check your spam folder! 

- Our next meeting is February 12.

- Nicole, Torri, and Victoria's groups will be bringing brunch. Sign up here at Signup Genius. You can also check out the upcoming brunch schedule and info by clicking on the "Brunch" tab here on the blog.

Thursday, January 24, 2019

Mike Garrett from Christian Counseling of Raleigh

At our first January meeting we heard from Mike Garrett from Christian Counseling of Raleigh



He told us that the #1 reason that couples get counseling is that they have a lack of emotional connection.  

One good way that we can connect with each other emotionally is to "ATTUNE" to each other. 

A- Attend - give undivided attention
TT - Turn Toward - physically turn toward your partner and show them attention with your body language
U- Understand - ask questions and follow their feelings
N - Non-defensively listen - don't react negatively to what they are saying or defend yourself
E- Empathize - ask questions to try to feel what they are feeling

Learning to attune to each other can help you feel connected, feel loved, and feel cared for.

He gave us a handout on how to have a Heart Talk with each other in order to foster that emotional connection: 



Announcements: 

- Make sure to pay your dues for Spring Semester! Click here to pay your dues, and see more details in our newsletter. 

- Our next meeting is January 29. Cynthia Sovich will speak to us on Helping Children with Loss/Death. 

Jamie Lee, Lacinda, and Rosemary's groups will be bringing brunch. Sign up here at Signup Genius. You can also check out the upcoming brunch schedule and info by clicking on the "Brunch" tab here on the blog.


Monday, January 7, 2019

Happy New Year!



We hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and holiday season. We are excited to start a new year of MOPS and MOMSnext at Crossroads!

We had a busy meeting on December 18 at our last meeting of 2018. 

Some of our activities included:
- bidding on items to finish up our auction fundraiser
- making an embroidery hoop wreath craft
- picking out new-to-us toys at our annual toy swap
- enjoyed delicious brunch and fellowship with other moms!




 




Join us for our first meeting of 2019 on January 15 to hear Christian counselors Mike and Rhonda Garrett speak to us about marriage. 

Amanda/Mindy, Ann, and Kristen's groups will be bringing brunch. Sign up here at Signup Genius. You can also check out the upcoming brunch schedule and info by clicking on the "Brunch" tab here on the blog.


Tuesday, December 4, 2018

Mentor Moms Panel

This week we were blessed to hear from our Mentor Moms panel, who shared with us their collective wisdom and experience about how to parent our children in a loving and godly manner. Below is a summary of the questions that were asked of them, and some of their answers.



-  What was your favorite/most challenging ages?

  • Twos and teens - they are uniquely challenging
  • Every age has its challenges - look for the good at each stage/age.


- What would you do differently?

  • Be able to show my kids what a real relationship with God is like.
  • Not to stress about things - stop worrying about what others think.
  • Not be as angry. Not worrying about living up to others' expectations.


- What is something you wish you did more as a mom? How do you balance it all?

  • Do your family the way it works for you.
  • Don't worry about the things everyone else is doing.
  • Take time for self care.
  • There is no such thing as balance - you do what you can do, and sometimes things have to be let go during certain seasons.


- What did you attempt to be grateful for each day?

  • Be thankful for the little things.
  • "His mercies are new every morning" 1 John 1:9
  • "Because of His great love, we are not consumed" Lamentations 3:22-23


- How did you teach your kids important skills and qualities?

  • Making a family meal a priority - sitting and talking about your day.
  • Kids knowing they can talk to you.


- What are the most important things you did to help your kids become successful adults?

  • Teach them to have a relationship with God.
  • Teach gratefulness and generosity
  • Lots of books - teach them to be lifelong learners


- What did you do in your spare time to spend time with God?

  • When the kids were little, do it after they went to bed.
  • Make time by getting up early.
  • Playing worship music during the day.
  • Read Bible stories to the kids.


- What should moms know about the teenage years?

  • Don't need to be dreaded.
  • Start good communication with your kids when they are little
  • Learning how to let kids make mistakes.
  • Your kids' mistakes don't reflect on you and your parenting skills.
  • It is not my job to convict my children of sin.
  • God loves your kids even more than you do.
  • Don't be afraid when your kids question stuff.
  • COMMUNICATE
  • Don't go into teenage years with any kind of expectations.
  • God will be with them no matter what.


- How did you make lasting friendships?

  • Make it a priority.


- One piece of advice for finding and maintaining your sense of identity

  • Remember WHO you are and remember WHOSE you are (I Peter 2:9 - Chosen, Matthew 5:14 - Light of the World, Colossians 2:10 - Filled in Him, Ephesians 1:7 - Redeemed, Forgiven, Given grace, Ephesians 2:10 - Workmanship
  • Don't forget the things you enjoy doing


- Technology

  • Communicate limits


- How to discipline toddlers

  • They are not min adults. They don't understand and reason like we do.
  • Be consistent with routine and schedule. Give them time for change. Let them know what's going on.
  • Distraction/re-direction
  • Stay calm!
  • Nobody is perfect!



The mentor moms also shared with us a list from Beth Moore - "Prayers Drawn from Scripture for your Children"  You can find it here to print it.


Announcements:

We have lots going on at our December 11 meeting! Here is our newsletter for more details about all of the announcements.

- Our auction fundraiser starts on December 7 online, and will conclude at our December 11 meeting. This is the link for the auction event on our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/events/455795934945664/ Please share the event with your friends and family! 

- Christmas toy swap on Tuesday! Bring any toys you'd like to swap with others!

- Butterbraids will be delivered on Tuesday at 11. Come prepared to pick up the Butterbraids you ordered, or make arrangements for someone else to pick them up for you. They need to be stored in a freezer within 2 hours.

- Bring a note or a gift to thank your child's teachers! Most classes have 2 teachers. See our newsletter for more information.

Nicole, Victoria, and Torri's groups will be bringing brunch. Sign up here at Signup Genius. You can also check out the upcoming brunch schedule and info by clicking on the "Brunch" tab here on the blog.

Monday, November 19, 2018

Hope for the Tired, Frustrated, and Empty Mom - November 13

As Thanksgiving is this week and the rest of the holidays loom closer, many of us feel even more tired, frustrated, and empty than usual, wondering how we can possibly give more than we already are. Christina Patterson's timely message was wonderfully encouraging as she shared how God can use the little we have for His glory.




Christina began by sharing how she felt that God was calling her to stay home after she had children, something she never thought would happen. She found it very challenging, and thought there was something wrong with her!  She told us that being a parent is supposed to be hard - we are constantly pouring ourselves out for our families. We often feel like we are not enough, and that we are doing it wrong.
Christina shared the story of Elijah and the widow from I Kings 17. The widow felt like she was not enough, when Elijah asked her for more than she felt like she could give. His response to her was that she should not be afraid.

  • We always feel like we are not enough when we are operating out of fear.
  • When we pour ourselves out for God, we will not run dry. We are to work unto God, and not unto men.
  • God does not want your ability - He wants YOU to trust HIS ability.
  • It's in our weaknesses that the power of God rests on us.
  • He doesn't want us to try harder; He wants us to trust Him more.
  • God will take what we already have and multiply it in miraculous ways.
  • When God is in the midst, it will be enough.
  • We can do more with God with a little bit than by ourselves with a lot.
  • When we have more, we can start to make idols of those things (money, sleep, time, etc.) We don't need those things more than we need God
Remember - motherhood is a ministry that God calls us to! 


Christina is from a ministry called Beloved Women. There are some amazing resources on the website if you check it out!

Announcements: 

Auction Fundraiser coming up in December! If you have anything you would like to donate, or know a business that you'd be willing to ask for a donation, please contact Rachel Chevalley at therachelchevalley@gmail.com

- Christmas Toy Swap coming up! Bring your unused kids' toys (gently used!) and Christmas decor items to our December 11 meeting, and swap with others!

Join us on November 27 for our Mentor Moms panel. 
Jamie-Lee, Lacinda, and Rosemary's groups will be bringing brunch. Sign up here at Signup Genius. You can also check out the upcoming brunch schedule and info by clicking on the "Brunch" tab here on the blog.